One of the hardest things you’ll do while planning your wedding is making the guest list. However, this is one task you definitely don’t want to put off - trust me, the longer you wait, the more difficult it will be. So, how do you generate the perfect guest list for your big day? We’ve got the tips and tricks to make the process easy, breezy and stress-free.
Here are a few tips for making your wedding guest list.
Consider your dream venue
There are a lot of things to consider when making up your guest list, one of which is your dream wedding venue. Even if you haven’t secured a space yet, you probably have an idea of what you’re looking for. Maybe it’s a grand ballroom? Perhaps it’s your cozy neighbourhood pub? Naturally, different venues have different capacities and you’ll want to put that into consideration before you start inviting everyone from your coworkers to your old flatmates from uni.
Think about budget
Remember, even if your venue can fit 500 people, you don’t have to invite that many people. In fact, if you’re trying to scrimp and save, you probably shouldn’t! You’ll have to budget for enough food and drink to go around, and providing sustenance for hundreds of people can rack up a pretty big tab.
Weddings are all about joining two families together, so you’ll probably want at least a few members of your clan in attendance. Obviously, your immediate families should be at the top of the list, but when it comes to your extended families, things can get a little murky. If you’re guest list is in the hundreds, you can probably safely add all your cousins, aunts and uncles to the list. However, if you’re hosting a more intimate celebration, you may only want to invite those who you’re super close with. Pro tip: you’ll want to tell your parents ASAP who you’re definitely inviting and who may not make the cut, so that they don’t accidentally slip up and share the news with everyone.
When it comes to friends, go with the best of the best
If you consider yourself close with every single one of your friends and followers, you may have trouble narrowing down your guests list. Unfortunately, it’s a job that needs to be done. Instead of focusing on all the people you can’t invite, focus on those that you can. Think of the people you text every day, call on the reg or see at least a few times a week. These are the ones that should 100% make it onto your guest list. If your venue has a large capacity, go ahead and add a few extras, but the rest should probably stay on your backup list.
Coworkers are (usually) all or nothing
You’ll want to be careful about how much info you divulge about your wedding or everyone will think they’re getting invites. If you’re only really mates with one person from your office, you can go ahead and invite them, but you’ll want to steer clear of talking about plans for your big day while you’re on the clock.
Kids: yay or nay?
This is another “all or nothing” sort of circumstance. If you’re going to allow one person to bring along their child, you’re going to have to extend the offer to everyone. If you’ve chosen to have a kid-free wedding, you’ll want to make it clear on your invitations (or wedding website) so that everyone knows to hire a sitter.
Divide and conquer
Naturally, your families will probably take up a good chunk of the list, but you’ll want to keep it even. For example, if you’ve chosen to invite 100 guests to your wedding, each of you should get a guaranteed 25 spots for family members, leaving you with a combined 50 invites for friends. Of course, this isn’t set in stone and there is a bit of wiggle room, but it’s good to start off with an even divide. Note: if one set of parents is footing the bill for your big day, they’ll probably have a bit more say in how your guest list works out.
Have a backup list
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but not everyone you invite will be able to come to your wedding (soz!). But don’t worry, there’s a silver lining to those “not attending” responses - you can invite people who didn’t quite make the cut when you made the first draft of your list. Hold onto a second list of “maybes” that you can pull out as soon as someone RSVPs with a no. P.S. you don’t want to publicize which people were on your B list - nobody wants to feel like they’re a second string friend.